REPEAT AFTER ME, ABCDSEXYZ
Posted on June 4, 2018
Our parents lovingly treasure the first few moments when we uttered the words "mom" and "dad" and other lame things like "teddy". Now imagine when they first hear their cute, young, god-fearing Indian babies uttering the words "SEX" and "KISS" and "CONDOM" and "BOOBS". Just pause for a minute and imagine their horror! I can almost hear the sound of glass shattering into tiny, tiny pieces in the background.
It's very natural for parents to want to keep their young, impressionable children from knowing in detail about what sex is or what an orgasm is, but to hide it from them and keep them uneducated is dangerous. My earliest memories of the word SEX are clouded with inaudible whispers and squeaky giggles about coded, metaphorical terms like bananas and doughnuts. Only once in a blue moon did the people around me actually use the word 'sex' while talking about sex. For the safety of my precious pocket money and from the fear of my parents and all the elders around me, I never dared to say the word out loud.
Even at 22 years of age, I still think twice and look around in all four directions before saying the word. What's even worse is that most of the times, I just avoid using it. I just say "it" or "that" and wiggle my eyebrows. I mean, WHAT THE HELL?
Imagine erasing all sexual terms and replacing them with "it" and "that"!
It what? I mean what the IT? You could replace that it with so many things and that itself could become a bizarre drinking game! I was once asked by my partner about how I felt after our first time together (you know what I mean!) and I had so much to say but so little courage to type it out and actually send it.
Eventually, after much confusion and embarrassment, I decided to stop this shit and get my vocabulary in place for the safety and well being of my sexuality. I mean we all have to take action at some point and start from somewhere, right? So yeah..I started with the ABCD's...
Exercise 1 –
Writing down all the terms related to sex that I could think of.
This might seem like a silly step but I have shied away from this for so long that it wasn't easy to even allow myself to write them down and say those words without cringing or covering my own ears. A small part of me felt like very badass for replacing A for Apple and B for Ball with other adult things. LAMEEEEEEEEEEEEEE. I know. But this is just the start and there's a long way to go before I overcome all the shame and guilt I feel about this subject of Sex and you gotta do what you gotta do..
READ ABOUT OTHER THINGS I DID >>
Ended up making a pros and cons list because that the best I could do.
To the person who doesn't know what 'consent' means..
WHY YES AND
FEELS LIKE A DEAL
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